Give Up Proving Your Worth

I get to coach incredibly bright, unique individuals. With a particular coaching assignment, I had the opportunity to speak with ten stakeholders for the person. The reviews were great -- he knocked it out of the park with strategic thinking, builds a rock-solid team and much more.

The feedback also included that he tended to bring high emotions into his conversations. People articulated he had a lot to be proud of and be happy, yet there was a sense he was trying to prove himself – when in fact, he had nothing to prove.

Do you know that feeling – trying to prove your worth? I have observed that most of the dysfunctional behaviors of people stem from a sense of having to prove their self-worth and existence.

Let me make something perfectly clear, if you are breathing, you have worth. In fact, you are priceless beyond measure.

Proving you can overcome a challenge versus proving your worth is totally different. Proving to yourself you can overcome a challenge builds self-esteem and confidence. Proving you have worth creates drama.

The lesson: accept your worth, be your personal best and let go the need for external approval.

 

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