Never, ever blame. It keeps you stuck in the past and a victim.
Instead be creative, innovative and find a solution. Be the victor that you
I am awe struck how amazing life is when I take full accountability
for my life. I use to lament, if only my childhood would have been better. If
only Exxon had not been such a negative workplace. While I might not have had
many options as a child, I am much
more powerful than I gave myself credit.
The power I have is choice! Those situations did not define me – my
I am self-empowered to live
my greatness today and every day. And so are you!
Know it is perfectly okay to make mistakes, just not the same ones!
There are new ones to be made.
Go to the root and resolve the mistake once and for all.
I am always reminding my clients to stop throwing money at problems.
Get to the root cause and fix it!
Same goes for mistakes. A personal example is that I use to give until
I was depleted and then resented the other person. Crazy –huh? I had not told
him or her about my depletion, I expected him or her to read my mind.
Now if I am getting to a breaking point – I point it out. And when I
am really being healthy, I set the boundaries and expectations upfront or as
soon as the first "infraction" occurs. Discussing when emotions are energy
neutral has changed the quality and dynamics of my relationships.
What recurring mistakes keep you from living your greatness?
Let those who are special to you know it! Feel it! Lavish them with
appreciation and love!
Life is speeding by. I can get wrapped up in demands, expectations and
doing and forget what is truly important - moments of joy, of love, of
Recently I almost lost a valued friendship with my doing and
perfectionism - standards. I had forgotten to express my sincere appreciation
for all he had done. I’ve been at the receiving end of such treatment, and did
not like it. And in fact, have walked away from such treatment and the
relationship. Thank goodness he did not and the lesson learned.
It was a 2X4 whack on the head for insight 7. I’ve become much more
cognizant of saying the words "thank you", "you matter" and showing
appreciation in other ways to everyone who is special. I am even more aware of
scratching behind the ears of my rescue puppy.
And guess what, I am happier now!
Who do you need to lavish with appreciation and thanks?
Take the high road – no matter how difficult – in all circumstances to
live free and unencumbered. Learn to respond, not react from the emotional
turmoil that might have been triggered.
My emotions can run high at times. The good ones I enjoy! The negative
emotions I am trying to tame. Not so easy! When I have been triggered by a
person or event, my emotions can spiral me and my actions into a dark spot with
Knowing that, I now choose to be conscious of the reaction and ask,
“What are you here to teach me? Am I over-reacting? Was that their intent?” and
take long slow conscious breaths which transport me from fear to understanding
and freedom to respond appropriately.
Apologize and ask for forgiveness when the occasion arises. Don’t let
pride ruin a relationship or your business.
Oh my goodness, apologizing can be hard. But what I know for sure,
when I did not apologize when it was appropriate, I lost a part of myself
either in trust, credibility and/or relationship that was overall good.
Yes, maybe my super-sized ego won, but did I win in the long run by
losing what is dear to me?